Do’s
- Show affection.
- Give warm hugs.
- Be supportive. Provide emotional support (This came up a lot.)
- Speak kindly in a soft manner.
- Acknowledge our needs.
- Listen to what we say.
- Create a sense of togetherness.
- Admit your mistakes.
- Apologize when you make a mistake or are wrong.
- Communicate well with us (good verbal communication).
- Spend more time with the family.
- Say “thank you” more often for the regular things we do for you.
- You are not a boss and we are not employees.
- Be sweet.
- Be sensitive.
- Be empathetic.
- Be understanding.
- Be appreciative of what I do.
- Be tolerant.
- Give compliments and small gifts.
- Decide for yourself; don’t let others decide for you.
- Give more importance to what is being said by the family rather than what is said by people outside.
- Understand the difference between control and protection. We want you to protect us, not control us.
- We don’t appreciate husbands whose prime relationship with us is to dominate rather than to be-friend.
Don’ts
- Don’t compare me to other women.
- Don’t order us around in front of the parents or people in general.
- Don’t be in denial of problems but communicate with us and resolve them.(Don’t brush things under the carpet.)
- Don’t think you don’t need to do anything for our in-laws. (Example of not going to their weddings.)
- Don’t yell at me.
- Don’t criticize me.
- Don’t insult me or treat me badly in front of your family.
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