Dos and Don’ts for Women


  • Show affection.
  • Give warm hugs.
  • Be supportive. Provide emotional support (This came up a lot.)
  • Speak kindly in a soft manner.
  • Acknowledge our needs.
  • Listen to what we say.
  • Create a sense of togetherness.
  • Admit your mistakes.
  • Apologize when you make a mistake or are wrong.
  • Communicate well with us (good verbal communication).
  • Spend more time with the family.
  • Say “thank you” more often for the regular things we do for you.
  • You are not a boss and we are not employees.
  • Be sweet.
  • Be sensitive.
  • Be empathetic.
  • Be understanding.
  • Be appreciative of what I do.
  • Be tolerant.
  • Give compliments and small gifts.
  • Decide for yourself; don’t let others decide for you.
  • Give more importance to what is being said by the family rather than what is said by people outside.
  • Understand the difference between control and protection. We want you to protect us, not control us.
  • We don’t appreciate husbands whose prime relationship with us is to dominate rather than to be-friend.


  • Don’t compare me to other women.
  • Don’t order us around in front of the parents or people in general.
  • Don’t be in denial of problems but communicate with us and resolve them.(Don’t brush things under the carpet.)
  • Don’t think you don’t need to do anything for our in-laws. (Example of not going to their weddings.)
  • Don’t yell at me.
  • Don’t criticize me.
  • Don’t insult me or treat me badly in front of your family.