Householder Life

The Real Meaning of Grihastha Asrama Explained by Srila Prahupada

“A grhistha is not meant to enjoy sex life without restriction. Indeed, the whole purpose of Vedic life is to become free from sexual indulgence. All the asramas are recognized for spiritual progress, and therefore although the gṛhastha-asrama gives a kind of license for sex life for a certain time, it does not allow unrestricted sex life. Therefore, in grhistha life also, there is no illicit sex. A grhistha should not accept a woman for sexual enjoyment. Wasting semen is also illicit sex.”
-SB 7.12 Summary

“One who is situated in household life and who systematically conquers his mind and five sense organs is like a king in his fortress who conquers his powerful enemies. After one has been trained in household life and his lusty desires have decreased, he can move anywhere without danger.”
-SB 5.1.18, Translation by Srila Prabhupada

“God is never opposed to sex. Who said? God said, dharmaviruddhaḥ kamo ‘smi: “Sex which is not against the regulative principle of religious life, that I am.” God never says that “Stop sex.” Otherwise, why there is grhastha asrama? Asrama means that there is Krsna consciousness. As soon as we say, “Here is an asrama,” we understand that there is consciousness of Krsna. So brahmacari asrama, grhistha asrama, vanaprastha asrama, sannyasa asrama, make it asrama and follow the rules and regulations of asrama. Then it is all right. Otherwise you are bound up by the laws of nature.”
-Srila Prabhupada Lecture on SB 5.5.1-2 – Bombay, March 25, 1977

“There are two words: grhamedhi and grhistha. Grihastha is different from grhamedhi. Grhistha asrama. Although he’s householder, it is asrama, only for advancing in Krsna consciousness. That is grhistha. But grhamedhi cannot do that. (break) Grha. Ācchā. Man has got the potency. Otherwise why they are offering to Krsna? Everyone has got the potency.”
-Srila Prabhupada, Morning Walk – Fiji, 1976

“A man is living with husband and wife or children, but the aim is how to improve spiritual life. That is grhistha-asrama. And one who has no such aim, he simply wants to enjoy the senses, and for that purpose he’s decorating the house, decorating the wife, children—that is called gṛha-vrata or gṛhamedhi.”
-Srila Prabhupada Lecture on SB 1.7.24, Vrndavana, September 21, 1976