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Stable marriages are becoming more and more of a challenge today and I want to do my part in helping devotees make their marriages successful. I hope this information will be useful either to you or to someone you know. Choosing the Right Partner One of the most important elements in a creating a lasting […]
“Win-Win” is a particular form of decision making. It involves both techniques and skills and a particular way of seeing the world. A key element is the notion of “Third Options” – solutions other than the two initially proposed by the respective individuals involved. Recognize that you have a problem, tell your mate, and set […]
1. Good communication starts with open and respectful listening. This doesn’t mean we have to agree with what we hear, but that we listen with a mood to understand and validate. We listen with both intellect (for the content) and with heart (for the feelings). This receptive attitude builds a loving and trusting relationship. Respect […]
Do’s 1. Love Show affection. Give warm hugs. Give compliments and small gifts. Be supportive. Provide emotional support (This came up a lot). Acknowledge our needs. Be sweet. Be sensitive. Be understanding. Be tolerant. Be appreciative of what I do. 2. Communication Listen to what we say. Communicate with us (good verbal communication). Don’t be […]
Dharma (or a mood of service, commitment, and sensitivity to others) is designed to bridge and regulate the relationship between these two separate worlds of men and women, and make the cooperation between them conducive to spiritual advancement, until they reach full freedom from self-centeredness, or from the bodily identification of “I am a man”, […]
The only way YOU can change your marriage is to change yourself. You’ve got to become the man or woman that anyone would want to be married to. You have to learn what a man/woman wants in a marriage AND how to implement relationship habits so that you can offer it CONSISTENTLY. Are you thinking, […]
The husband as the guru of the wife is an interesting topic. Some men operate under the paradigm that since I am the guru of my wife, she is duty-bound to do anything I ask of her. I am not saying it is not the duty of the wife to serve the husband, but the […]
Here are some potential red flags for a potential husbands that you need to beware of. Do you think this man will see you (or does see you) as a sex object or does he respect you sexually? Does this man have a tendency to verbally abuse your or are his words mostly encouraging, sensitive […]
The following points are useful to keep in mind for dealing with all types of conflict, from mild differences of opinion up to serious tensions. 1. Try to see all conflict as an opportunity for growth. Conflict is natural in this world. Different opinions, tensions and even more serious conflict can lead to positive change. […]
“Strange that some of us, with quick alternate vision, see beyond our infatuations, and even while we rave on the heights, behold the wide plain where our persistent self pauses and awaits us.” George Elliot “Oh I just really like him. He’s so cute. Just seeing him makes me get goosebumps.” These words, overheard from […]
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